How sometimes it feels that our destiny is not our own, and we are at the mercy of waiting for someone else to decide, for something to happen, for clarity to come.
How can we survive, and maybe even thrive in these times?
When it feels as if we have lost control, the ego is threatened. The ego’s job is to make us believe we are in control, and to scare us into taking action to prove that we are. So this threat to the ego makes us feel very unsure and afraid, indeed. We look around for something we CAN control, and we latch onto that. We push decisions before their time just for clarity. In short, we hop over the questions to get to any answer.
But part of finding and living your truth is living the questions themselves, as Rainer Maria Rilke wrote:
“I would like to beg you, dear sir, as well as I can, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke, 1903, from Letters to a Young Poet
And truly being able to do this means recognizing the ego, and also realizing that
NO MATTER WHAT COMES YOU CAN HANDLE IT.
This was a huge realization for me. That I am far greater than my ego. That the essence of who I am is far stronger than I even know.
Has there ever been anything yet that you didn’t survive? Can you look back at the things that you thought might kill you and see what you learned and how you grew from it? And maybe, just maybe that they were even necessary for you?
Don’t let the ego fool you into believing that you need control or need to know the answer. Instead, try opening into the mess, the confusion, rawness, and all the emotions that it brings. Be a blank slate. Be a beginner. Be willing to wait through the discomfort for your new level of thinking to emerge, as it needs time to do.
This is the essence of what I seem called to help people do. Live their questions until their answers emerge. Help them learn to trust the wisdom of their essence over the discomfort of their ego. And, I’ll admit that this isn’t easy to do – it wasn’t easy for ME to do, and I still forget it sometimes.
Have you ever felt you were living in limbo? If so, what did it teach you? Leave a comment below and share your wisdom.