What had the biggest impact on you last year?
What one thing that you read, experienced, or created changed everything for you?
For me, it was this book:
This book caused me to shift how I see the world and how I create my world.
I was in a conversation last night about goal setting, and I realized that I have shifted away from that mindset since reading this book.
I no longer set goals. I take stands.
The difference is that taking a stand is declaring something possible that you don't know how to create. It is literally "impossible" in your current world. That is the language you use. And from this stand that you take, you can immediately BE who you need to be to bring forth that possibility. It's less about action plans and more about "Who do I need to BE to bring this about?"
And you make promises - to yourself and others. And you make requests. Always from the stand that you are taking.
In 2016, I took a stand for deeper intimacy in my life. I didn't set a goal. And I had no idea if or how I could make it happen.
And then I promised myself that in 6 months I would be the woman I needed to be to have that occur in my life. To fulfill that promise, I expanded my capacity to love and be present, I left my marriage, I enrolled in a 6-month Relationship and Intimacy training, I pushed the boundaries of how I show up in relationship, I allowed myself to be really, really generous and vulnerable with my heart, and I took great risks along the way.
Now, 6 months later, I KNOW deep intimacy is possible for me and I KNOW that I AM that woman.
And, I also know that I could not have created an action plan that would have laid out the path for me. I made the impossible happen. It may seem a little like it's just a difference in language, but it's not. There is a powerful energetic difference that you can only feel when you take a stand.
Is there something that you are willing to risk everything for? That you are so clear that you desire that you would pursue it even if you knew you would fail?
THAT'S the place to take a stand from.
It sounds scary. It IS scary. It is extraordinary. It is rare. And it is the most alive you will ever feel.
I wish that for you.